Welcome to
The Alignment Blueprint
the 5-day reset designed to help you break free from autopilot and finally feel connected again
to your self
to your partner
to your children
to your one beautiful life
(In less than an hour a day, because who has the time, am I right?)
Single? No kids? All gravy, baby. You’re still 100% in the right place. TAB and my entire body of work (weekly emails, courses, workbooks, etc.) is about connection. That’s a universal human need, no matter what your life looks like. Use what fits your unique circumstances, skip what doesn’t, and know that this work belongs to you.
**taps side of iced coffee with a spoon (tink tink tink tink)
This reset marks the difference between “just existing” and really living.
But, real quick before we start…
I strongly dislike (quote from The Grinch: “hate hate hate, double hate, LOATHE ENTIRELY”) when someone is like, “Here’s your free thing!” and it’s just some bullsh*t 2-page PDF like, “welcome to 5 vague tips you already knew” CAN YOU NOT? 🙄
I respect you too much to pull that kind of sh*t.
My biggest pet peeve is when someone wastes my MF tiiiime. You’ve got sh*t going on. I’ve got sh*t going on. Leave us alone if you aren’t providing real change with your free stuff, k?
I believe if you’re trusting me with your energy and your time (and your email address lol), you deserve to be provided with something that actually helps you progress, heal, and grow.
So…I designed this reset to help you feel better. To get you back into alignment with what YOU value most. To get you reconnected on a soul level, NOT just on the surface. Because we only do depth ‘round here, buddy.
You can read it all the way through before you start Day 1 or jump around using the quick links below. Do what ya’ gotta do.
(PS: If you’re new to my work, “espresso shots” are for the quick, read it and run type. “Slow sipper lattes” are for the curious deep-divers who have a little more time and are interested in learning via more thorough explanations.)
**raises glass, clinks it into yours, chugs iced coffee (gulp gulp gulp)
Cool cool cool. Away we go!
// quick links:
FOUNDATIONS:
DAILY PAGES:
WRAP-UP:
OPTIONAL READING:
(This is a bonus deep dive I wrote to help you understand the nature of the work you’re about to begin and determine if you’re in the right place. Is this read interesting and helpful? Yes. Is it NECESSARY to begin day 1 of your reset or to become a cycle breaker? Probs not. Read it if you feel called. Skip it if you don’t. No big thing, chicken wing.)
//intro
Whatcha doin’ here, cutie?
If you feel disconnected…like something just isn’t right…
If things feel off or blah so you numb out, dissociate, doom scroll, or binge reality tv (Love Island made me sick BUT YEAH I WATCHED IT 😂)…
If you’re self-aware as f*ck and interested in “the work” but don’t know where (or how) to start making actual change…
Or if something just pulled you to click the button… (Hello, divine guidance!)
Then yep. Welcome home. This reset is the first step on your journey towards alignment with your most fulfilled self. Your best and happiest you!!
Whatever brought you here, please trust it.
I believe with my whole heart that you’re meant to be right here, right now, with me.
My goal is to help you feel good as f*ck about your every day life…by navigating it in a more aligned, meaningful, and connecting way than “normal” people do.
…but, I facilitate this in a much different way than the typical “personal growth” or “cycle breaker” content creators you see online.
My silver thread:
I don’t just give you tips, tricks, and scripts. We don’t just do “healing work” or “growth work” like what you see on IG. That stuff doesn’t stick. (And is boring AF!!)
I encourage you to grow more specifically by FIRST finding alignment internally, THEN developing and strengthening your energetic sovereignty — so you can learn to make more aligned choices externally.
Because that’s the missing piece.
Alignment with what YOU give a sh*t about inside your own heart.
Here’s what I know to be true:
you can’t change what you don’t notice
you can’t choose a new way of being if you’re always unconsciously reacting from old scripts, habits, or patterns
you can’t break cycles if you’re unaware of the energy and outside influences that are currently shaping your life and relationships
if you feel the heaviness, maybe even the darkness of how “normal people” do life, the title of “cycle breaker” is meant for you and you’re in the right place
Over the next 5 days, my hope for you is that you’ll feel:
more in tune with yourself - like you can actually hear your own voice/needs underneath the noise, chaos, busy, etc.
moments with your kids that feel calmer, lighter, and more meaningful
less guilt, less disconnect, less BLAH
subtle shifts that make the energy in your home feel more peaceful, safe, and inviting (even if no one else in your home changes)
closer to the power to choose how your family life, home, and inner landscape feels, instead of letting it be unconsciously created by your past, your habits, or your automatic reactions
If that all vibes well with you, this is YOUR reset. Your next evolution. This is the big work you were put here to do.
Let’s goooo!! :)
// how it works
Here’s the sitch:
This reset has much more power than me just telling you to “put your phone down and be more present.” Snoozefest.
It’s about learning to access and align with your energetic sovereignty; the invisible frequency you carry that shapes how your child feels around you, how your partner responds to you, and how you move through your world.
It’s the felt energy behind everything you do and every relationship you participate in.
It sounds busy, but don’t worry. I’ll tell you all about it later. :)
TAB is the beginning of you and I co-creating the map from where you are now to the life, love, and connections you deserve.
It’s the path to the MORE you’ve been craving.
Put more simply, the kind of work we do in my world will bring you home. I know this because it brought me home, too. Over the past 7 years I’ve…
overcome debilitating depression
found confidence in myself, my choices, and my worth that I didn’t know was possible
shed my “people pleaser” decision making filter
gained intuitive access to my purpose (and developed a belief in myself and my gifts big enough to actually work inside that purpose!! Heyyyy!!)
rid myself of the victim mentality (life is happening for me, not TO me)
built a passionate, supportive, energizing relationship that rocks my f*cking socks off
and I build on fulfilling connections with all 4 of my little ones every day
I don’t feel detached, distant, or out of alignment anymore. And, I want the same for you. Because I love ya’, okay?
In learning to navigate these growth focused processes for myself, I’ve created a unique world (and a detailed, repeatable framework, The Cycle Breaker Method™, because ya’ girl LOVES systems) where committing to cycle breaking actually is the avenue to your deepest desires.
Not a side quest. THEE quest.
I designed this reset to be your invitation into that world, where we build the foundation required for a “hell yeah, brother” kind of life. (Shout out Hulk Hogan lol)
We start that process by finding and removing the layers of chaos, conditioning, and wounds you don’t realize are currently running your life…
Because THAT, my dear, is what being a cycle breaker is all about. And that’s where the magic is born.
Woah, woah, woah. Slow down, Tor. …what even is a cycle breaker, though?
A cycle breaker is someone who says: “Nahhhhh. That ends with me.”
Basically, you just choose to live differently than most people.
You choose to stop operating from inherited pain, people-pleasing patterns, or survival habits.
You tune back into you to find who you are underneath who the world around you tells you you should be. (“Should” = ew)
You adopt growth work as a lifestyle as opposed to a bandaid for when things aren’t going well.
You reclaim your decision making process so it aligns with what YOU value. Alignment Blueprint!! :)
And (if you’ve got kids) by doing alllll of this, you also set the next generation free.
And everybody wins.
So, now that you understand the basics, it’s time to reset ya’ life!! Let’s go, ya’ beautiful, bad ass lil’ cycle breaker, you!
Here’s what I’m providing you with:
5 daily anchors (these activities will vary each day)
a tracking system to encourage your momentum (either to print or to copy and paste into your phone notes because visual aids are V IMPORTANT TO YOUR SUCCESS, OKAY?)
5 cute lil’ wallpaper reminders (aka love notes from me)
powerful reflection prompts to keep you connected to your progress
bonus tips to keep your momentum after the reset ends
and silly old me right here with you through the whoooole journey (so, buckle up, buttercup!!)
“A rising tide lifts all boats.” — JFK
Partnership. Parenting. Powerful self leadership. The Alignment Blueprint focuses on these 3 areas of life all at once…because there is remarkable power in a whole-self and whole-life approach to your growth. And yes, that was too many words that start with P. Leave me the f alone, I’M DOING MY BEST, OKAY!? ;)
Let’s get you set up!! ↓
// step 1: setting up your system
“Failing to plan is planning to fail.” — Benjamin Franklin
Tracking = transformation.
By starting Day 1 of your reset with an actual plan (your tracker), you’re setting yourself up to succeed despite life happening.
You’ll get busy.
You’ll have a low motivation, tired day.
Your kid will ___ .
Your partner will ___ .
There are a million and one things that will TRY to throw you off your reset.
Tracking keeps the goal alive no matter what comes up. It gives your brain and body visible proof that change is happening, which somewhere in your subconscious mind makes the journey more desirable to complete.
I created two tracker options for you to choose from because everybody’s brain works a lil’ different:
a printable version if you’re the pen-to-paper type
a copy/paste version to keep in your phone notes if you’re like me and need it to be quick & accessible from anywhere
Why this matters:
Don’t skip this part. For real for real. Tracking your 5 daily anchors will help you…
stay close to the impact of your choices
celebrate the wins (even the small ones!!)
notice which areas feel harder or consistently missed…and get curious about what’s getting in the way
pick up where you fell off instead of abandoning the whole reset when you miss an anchor
take ownership and responsibility over how this reset (and your life!!) plays out
So before we do this, choose your version below. Take 2 minutes to set it up either in your phone notes or print & tape it somewhere you’ll see it every day…
and put on your “ready to party” pants. :)
// step 2: understanding the 5 daily anchors
Here’s a quick rundown of your 5 daily anchors.
Anchor 1: Morning Compass Work (~5 Minutes)
Anchor 2: The Little Gods & The Gold 15 (~15 minutes)
Anchor 3: Relationship Recalibration (~15 minutes)
The Cyclical Nature of Giving + Receiving
Anchor 4: Gratitude (Receiving) (~5 minutes)
Anchor 5: Contributions (Giving) (~5 minutes)
I’ve got 2 options to help you understand the anchors:
Option 1: the espresso shot version (for the ones who prefer to read it and run with it)
Option 2: The slow sipper latte version (for the ones who love a good deep dive; more pretty words, more silly sh*t, deeper learning)
// understanding the 5 daily anchors: the read it and run espresso shot version
Anchor 1: Morning Compass (~5 min)
You’ll start your day with a quick check-in before life takes over. Get in touch with what you need, what you feel, what’s goin’ on inside. (I’ll provide variations for each of the 5 days.) This is how you stop running on autopilot and start leading your day with intention.
Anchor 2: The Little Gods & The Gold 15 (~15 min)
For parents: 15 distraction-free minutes with your kids. No phone. No multitasking. Just presence. I offer a variety of suggestions for each age group but you can do whatever floats your boat!! This intentional time fills their “safety + trust” bank and reminds you what it feels like to see the world through their eyes, with child-like wonder and awe.
For non-parents: I offer a variety of simple but life-giving ways to reconnect with the child-like wonder and awe that helps us feel the magic of our human experience.
Anchor 3: Relationship Recalibration (~15 min)
For those with a partner: I provide a variety of small daily reaches for connection with your partner each day. Keeps the “us” alive instead of slipping into roommate mode. Tiny effort now to prevent big problems later. Taking your relationship OFF autopilot.
For singles: you’ll recalibrate the energy inside your desire for a future partner or skip anchor 3 all together if you’re not called to this! There’s no right or wrong way to do this reset :) Recalibration for singles is about tending to your relational energy, desire, and self-trust before the relationship arrives (or instead of forcing one if that’s not your focus).
Anchors 4 & 5
Gratitude (~5 min)
You’ll track 5 things you’re grateful for, big or small. Could be your kid’s belly laugh, a warm coffee, a sunset, remembering to take a deep breath, or your partner making you laugh. It all counts. The more you notice and acknowledge the good, the more you see it. What you focus on expands.
Anchor 5: Contribution (~5 min)
You’ll track 3 ways you gave to someone or something today. Could be comforting your child in a meltdown, sending a kind text, choosing patience instead of snapping, or complimenting a stranger. A reminder that you’re not just in the world experiencing life (victim mode), you’re actively participating, shaping it, and making it better.
// understanding the 5 daily anchors: the slow sipper latte deep dive version
click to expand the sections that pertain to you ↓
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Morning Compass Work (~5 min)
Every morning, you’ll work through the prompt provided for each day. Nothing wild. Just 5-ish minutes that you’re quiet, still, and preferably alone (if possible, but can be done holding a baby or on a walk with kids if necessary, trust me, I get it).
Think of this as planting a seed for the day ahead of you. Instead of rushing straight into the demands of life, you’re taking juuuuust a quick lil’ minute to BE with yourself and make space for what typically gets overlooked or ignored. Reading your own compass before the world tells you what direction to go in.
WHY THIS MATTERS IN THE LONG GAME OF YOUR LIFE:
This simple check-in is where the foundation of self-trust is built. The more often you pause to ask, “What do I actually need today?” or, “What the helllll is going on in my heart/mind/body right now?” the less likely you are to abandon yourself, run on fumes, or feel weird af inside about the choices you make.
Over time, this practice helps you stay connected and in alignment with your own inner guidance…so you’re not just blindly reacting to what the day throws at you. You have quicker access to your OWN values.
You’re responding to life from a state of clarity, intention, love, and most importantly, AUTHENTICITY.
It shifts your energy from survival mode to choice mode. From autopilot to alignment.
This is how you step away from self-abandonment, autopilot, numbing, overwhelm, etc.
It’s how you soften the pressure, find space to regulate your nervous system, and parent (and partner) from a place that feels good and true to your values inside your own body.
And just like a cute lil’ carrot seed planted with care…the more you water this habit, the more it grows into your natural way of being. Self-trust becomes your paramount and you develop the confidence to break cycles. The big work!
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The Little Gods & The Gold 15 (~15 min)
For anchor 2, I’ll provide unique, age appropriate activities for each day of the reset. I call this “The Gold 15.” This short time you’ll spend with your little one(s) each day is about offering them the grounded, loving, DISTRACTION FREE energy they need on a more consistent basis…without the pressure of feeling like you need to be “on” allllllll day longgggg. It’s the idea that this short window creates a richness. Gold in the bank of your child’s nervous system, relational trust, and lifelong memory.
The point of The Gold 15 is to both build connection and trust with them, and simultaneously tap into your own childlike wonder to see the world in the beautiful, godly ways our littles can see it. Gold for them AND for you.
Here, we show your babies that they’re worth your undivided attention. That THEY matter more than your phone. That they can count on feeling securely connected to their most important person at LEAST once in their day. All while reminding your subconscious mind what it’s like to exist in a state of curiosity, wonder, and awe, too. Much more enjoyable than how us adults tend to live.
GROUND RULES FOR TG15:
Set aside distraction-free time.
No phones. No multitasking. No TV in the background. Just you and them.Physically slow down and settle beside them.
Connecting with them starts with your energy. Let your physical body AND your energy show them “I’m here with you, all in.”Get on their level.
Whether that means crawling on the floor or just tuning into their world…enter it in a way that helps you see the world as THEY see it. From THEIR unique P.O.V. So cute and little :)Let go of any agenda or expectations.
This isn’t about productivity or performance or even an end-goal, really. It’s just about showing up differently than you have been. Be there with them. Enjoy them for who and how they are. Drop expectations of how they’ll respond. Just be. Some days, you’ll annoy them with The Gold 15. Some days, you’ll feel more connected to them than you have in a long time. Just keep showing up.
See this as an opportunity to attune to their state before frustration builds. To offer connection before they have to demand it with challenging or disconnected behavior.
When you show up for these moments consistently, gently, and without distraction you’re giving your child a nervous system to borrow. You’re teaching them safety through your presence. You’re showing them how much they matter. My, how different you and I would have been if we got to experience felt safety in this way every day of our childhood, am I right?
WHY THIS MATTERS IN THE LONG GAME OF YOUR LIFE:
These golden windows of connection build the foundation of trust and emotional safety your child will stand on for the rest of their life. Small, steady moments that say “You’re important. I delight in you. I’m here. I love you just the way you are. You deserve my time. There’s gold in this family system and you’re a big part of it.”
When your child feels securely connected…even for just 10–15 minutes at a time…they’re less likely to seek attention through meltdown, misaligned behavior, or shutdown. Their little nervous system relaxes. Their heart softens. They feel safe to just BE.
And just as importantly: you soften, too. You get to step out of the stress spiral, chaos, or autopilot, and into the magic of their beautiful world. You get to be reminded of (and reconnected with) the wonder, curiosity, and aliveness that still lives inside you, too. (Hello, inner child work! I love you!!)
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The Little Gods & The Gold 15 (~15 min)
For Anchor 2, you’ll still be spending 15 intentional, distraction-free minutes, but instead of connecting with little ones, you’ll be reconnecting with the part of yourself (or your world) that carries wonder, curiosity, and aliveness. The little god is your inner child!! :) I call this “The Gold 15” because, just like with kids, these moments are deposits of richness, goooold into your nervous system, your joy, and your sense of belonging to this wild, beautiful life. (Shout out Austin Powers, Goldmember, I love gooooooold lol)
This can look a million different ways: sitting under a tree and noticing the breeze, painting or doodling without an agenda, going on a short “awe walk” with your senses wide open, dancing in your living room to a song you loved as a teen, or simply letting yourself daydream without judgment. Just do some sh*t you loved doing as a kid is the whole point, ya’ know?
The goal of The Gold 15 is to interrupt the autopilot of stress, scrolling, and busyness and instead remind your whole system what it feels like to be alive, awake, in a state of play, and in wonder. Gold in the bank of your nervous system, trust in life, and connection with yourself.
Ground rules for The Gold 15 (non-parent edition):
Set aside distraction-free time. No phone. No multitasking. Let it just be you and the inner child you’re giving attention to.
Slow your body down. Take a breath. Let your physical energy match the calm, curious state you’re stepping into as you reach for your inner child.
Drop expectations. It doesn’t need to be productive, “healing,” or Instagram-worthy. The magic is in just showing up for play.
Notice the shift. These tiny, intentional moments soften your edges. They build safety and trust in your own nervous system. They remind you of who you are beneath the pressure us grown ups place on ourselves.
WHY THIS MATTERS IN THE LONG GAME:
These golden windows of connection — with yourself, with life, with your sense of awe — create a foundation for emotional safety, joy, and presence that will carry you forward. They whisper to your nervous system: “You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to play. You matter.”
And just like with kids, the ripple effect is undeniable: the more consistently you show up for yourself in these little inner child opportunities, the more calm, creative, and connected you feel in every other part of your grown up life.
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Relationship Recalibration (~15 min)
When you’re exhausted, overstimulated, on autopilot, or even just all-in on parenting, your relationship is usually the first thing to fall to the bottom of the priority list.
But dammit buddy, I NEED you to know something: your relationship serves as the emotional roof over top of your family AND the grounding roots underneath it. If the roof leaks, everything underneath it starts to feel unsafe from the storms of the outside world. If the roots are rotting, the tree isn’t stable enough to stay up, let alone grow towards the sun.
This anchor is about offering your partnership a small piece of connection each day. Nothing huge, but enough intention to remind both of you:
We’re still in this together. We’re still us.
Each day, you’ll be given one short prompt to help you turn towards each other again. You can do it sitting on the couch after bedtime, while you fold the laundry, or even as a voice note if you’re on opposite schedules or struggling to find even ONE MF MINUTE (relatable lol).
NOTE: this anchor is NOT about deep processing, putting pressure on a need to reconnect, or “fixing” things. It’s just a sweet little sprinkle of notable EFFORT that grounds you into the now and snaps you out of going through the motions / “roommate” life. Because nothing changes if nothing changes and we have to start somewhere, ya’ know?
This anchor is ultimately about helping you remember what it feels like in your body to turn TOWARDS each other again, even when life is full, energy is low, and it seems easier to just cruise on through.
GROUND RULES FOR RR:
you don’t need to be in the “right mood”
you don’t need to carve out an hour.
you don’t need to be amazing at talking about your feelings
ya’ just gotta show up with openness, curiosity, and the desire to feel something again
And the most important ground rule for Anchor 3: Don’t get tripped up over how your partner answers these questions. It isn’t really about them. It’s about US leading the way. :) And if they aren’t available or willing to participate, do it anyway. You don’t need both people to recalibrate the dynamic. You just need one person to stand up and choose to lead.
WHY THIS MATTERS IN THE LONG GAME OF YOUR LIFE:
So many couples wait until things are REEEEALLLLY disconnected to try to “fix” things. That’s a “too little, too late” approach. It starts in the less noticeable moments, where one of you is turning toward the other, but it gets missed. Missed glances, swallowed words, the assumption that you’ll talk about it “later.” Being busy, focusing only on the kids, it all adds up.
This anchor rebuilds and recalibrates your connection one MANAGEABLE step at a time. This serves as a roadmap for exactly how you can not only become, but STAY, emotionally accessible and passionately connected despite chaos, conflict, and the demands of the outside world.
RR serves to reinstall little beams of light in places that may have gone dark. When you’re checked out, on autopilot, or struggling to feel connected in a way that soothes your nervous system, these little beams of light are all it takes to begin again…and to choose a new path for your love.
This anchor is really f*cking important, okay? Because you deserve a love that doesn’t just survive inside the chaos of life…you deserve a love that GROWS through it. With eyes turned toward each other and a passion that expands instead of dwindling over time..
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Relationship Recalibration (~15 min)
This anchor is about offering yourself a small piece of intentional connection each day. Nothing huge, but enough intention to remind you:
My desires are worth showing up for. I can trust myself to love and be loved.
Each day, you’ll be given one short prompt to help you turn towards you again, or towards the love you’re creating space for. You can do it in your journal, out loud in the car, or as a voice note to your future self.
NOTE: this anchor is NOT about obsessing over finding a partner, or feeling like you’re behind. It’s about gently recalibrating the energy you bring into relationships, now and later. It’s about keeping your heart open, instead of defaulting to autopilot, numbness, or cynicism.
And the most important ground rule for this recalibration: Don’t overthink where this will “lead.” It isn’t about forcing an outcome. It’s about you leading yourself, in worthiness, in openness, in the energy you bring to every connection.
WHY THIS MATTERS IN THE LONG GAME OF YOUR LIFE:
So many people wait until they’re in a relationship to start thinking about how they show up for their partner. That’s like trying to plant roots after the tree is already standing.
This anchor helps you recalibrate your relational energy one manageable step at a time. It teaches you how to stay emotionally open, connected, and rooted in self-trust, so that when love does come, you’re not scrambling to build the foundation from scratch.
RR for singles is about reinstalling little beams of light where you may have closed doors. When you’re checked out, cynical, or doubting yourself, these moments are all it takes to begin again, to choose a new path for how you hold love, whether that’s in the relationships you already have, or in the ones you’re calling in.
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The Cyclical Nature of Giving & Receiving
Gratitude (~5 minutes)
Contributions (~5 minutes)
This practice is made up of two parts and meant to be completed at the end of your day. We’ll be starting a habit of paying attention to both what you received from life and what you gave.
You can use a written journal, your phone’s notes app, a sticky note, or the back of your grocery list. I literally do not care lol :) The format doesn’t matter. What matters is that you just start noticing! Showing whatever higher power you believe in, God, the Universe, your SELF, that you’re paying attention!!!
Gratitude asks you to notice what life gave to YOU that day: …beauty, warmth, love, ease, a challenge that’s pushing you to grow, even a tiny spark you would have overlooked prior to this reset.
Contribution invites you to notice what you gave to the world: your energy, compassion, presence, or effort.
This is important because the more you track both, the more you remember that you’re not just a passive participant in your life. You’re an active co-creator of it.
You begin to feel less like life is happening to you,
…and more like you’re in a reciprocal, nourishing dance with the world around you. Your fulfilled self lives there. :)
Gratitude: What You Received
Gratitude is a simple BUT SOOOO OFTEN OVERLOOKED practice that rewires your brain to notice the good. The more you recognize and appreciate, the more your mind naturally seeks out, pays attention to, and actually absorbs those moments of joy, beauty, and connection…even on the hard days.
Each night when you get in bed, you’ll write down five things you’re grateful for that you experienced that day. Nothing is too big or too small to make this list.
Maybe you…
heard a song that made you smile
noticed the way your child reached for your hand
remembered to take an intentional deep breath that calmed you down juuuust a little
saw a sunset that stopped you in your tracks
enjoyed the smell of coffee brewing in the morning
had a breakthrough moment with your partner
experienced your child opening up to you about something important
felt present in a way you haven’t in a long time
What you focus on expands.
When you start looking for the good, life gives you more of it. :)
Contribution: What You Gave
You’ll also write down three ways you contributed to the world around you that day.
These might be small, or feel silly to track. But they DO matter, because they complete the cycle of giving and receiving. Wholeness is a circle, not just a half, ya’ know? Think yin-yang.
To complete anchor 5, you’ll ask yourself:
How did I positively impact someone or something outside of myself today?
This might look like…
I comforted my child (and stayed calm myself) during a meltdown
I offered my partner a moment of connection
I sent a nice text to a friend
I picked up trash at the park because Mama Earth deserves BETTER
I gave a compliment to a stranger
I chose to be patient when I usually would have snapped or shut down
I didn’t miss a teaching moment with my little…I showed up for it bc I was paying attention!!
WHY THIS MATTERS IN THE LONG GAME OF YOUR LIFE:
Tracking your gratitude and contributions actually creates a shift in how your brain processes your day-to-day life.Each time you name something good, you’re reinforcing a pattern: “This is what I want to notice. This is what I want more of. This is how I want to show up. This is how I want my life to feel.”
Over time, this builds presence muscle memory. You start noticing good things and ways to serve others more effectively in real time, not just in hindsight.
Your nervous system relaxes as this muscle memory builds…because you begin to trust the goodness and the cycles of give/recieve that are already built into your life by design.
You got through it! Nice work, pal. Now, onto your last step for today!! ↓
// step 3: the identity shift
Here’s the thing, bubs: real change only sticks when you stop seeing yourself as someone who’s “trying” to do better and start seeing yourself as someone who just IS.
That’s the shift we’re making.
The old identity: “I’m too distracted / tired / disconnected, but I’ll tryyyy to be better.”
The new identity: “I’m the kind of person who shows up for myself every day.”
See the difference? One keeps you stuck. The other opens the door to alignment with your best self.
By starting this reset, you’re already proving you’re not who you were before. You’re someone willing to…
notice your patterns instead of ignoring them
choose meaningful connection instead of staying on autopilot
value your energy and alignment enough to work with it consistently instead of just sometimes
lead your Self and your family differently than the generations before you
So before Day 1 even begins, pause and say it with me:
“I notice where I can take control. I choose to do things differently. I connect with depth. I lead myself and my family with confidence. I am a cycle breaker.”
That’s you, babe. Starting tomorrow, the anchors you practice will grow this identity until it feels concrete and “locked in” as my preteen says. ;)
K. I know that ↑↑ was a lot of sh*t to process.
You prepped your tracker, you understand the daily anchors, you claimed the identity required for the life you want.
So tonight, let’s let it all settle. Let it steep in your subconscious mind like some delightful iced tea, ya’ know?
A little space for your nervous system to actually absorb the changes you’ve claimed as yours today: you’re not going back to autopilot, you’re here to find alignment, break cycles, and meet your best MF self. And it’s safe to change, grow, evolve, and find the MORE you crave. We do it together, me and you.
Your reset starts with the sunrise. Sleep well. :)