Cycle Breaking 101: How to Determine if You’re Meant to Be a Cycle Breaker
…and why your journey begins right here :)
(estimated reading time: 6 min)
Inside my world, we don’t start by “fixing” your kids, your partner, or your mindset. That’s all surface level.
We start with depth. (Surface level shallow sh*t go HOOOOOME, BOOOOO!!!)
Because when you change your inner landscape, everything else moves, too. I’m proof of that.
The first few years of my marriage, I felt lost as f*ck. I had the attractive husband, the sweet lil’ new baby, a nice house, a dog, the “white picket fence” life. But inside, I was so unbelievably discontent.
I committed myself to…
years of therapy (a f*cking lot of it lol)
hella inner child work
consuming absurd amounts of growth and healing books/podcasts
attending spiritual retreats to overhaul my psyche
Internal Family Systems!!!
depth psychology (swoon, this my favorite sh*t, guys)
learning the connection between physical and emotional strength
developing energetic leadership within myself and my home
setting boundaries that made others pretty unhappy (lol)
and yep, moving halfway across the country (because you can’t heal in the same environments that made you sick)
I didn’t know it then, but in looking back I can see, the missing piece for me (when on paper everything looked good but inside felt dull, lifeless, and unfulfilling) was choosing to become a cycle breaker.
That choice is the key piece that gave me the capacity and the map to:
overcome debilitating depression and anxiety
find confidence I didn’t know was possible
shed my “people pleaser” decision making filter
gain intuitive access to my purpose (and develop a belief in myself and my gifts big enough to actually work inside that purpose!!)
rid myself of the victim mentality (life is happening for me, not TO me)
build a relationship that feels safe, passionate, and alive (rawr)
and build on fulfilling connections with all 4 of my little ones every day (instead of checking out because it’s too hard to hold it all)
And from those years of study and work, I developed my own unique process (aka the Cycle Breaker Method™), which walks you through:
Awakening: noticing your inherited patterns, conditioning, and wounds
Repatterning: learning to pause and choose differently in real time
Attunement: building deep emotional alignment and connection
Emergence: learning to hold (and not sabotage) the life, love, and relationships you desire
The Alignment Blueprint is where it all starts.
This 5-day reset gives you the daily anchors you need to wake up from autopilot, reconnect with yourself, and lay the foundation for all the big shifts you’re about to make.
It’s the path that brings you home.
Home to yourself.
Home to your children.
Home to your partner.
Home to that guiding inner voice that says, “Your life is supposed to feel like a hell yes. You’re meant to do more than just get through the day. There’s more.”
If you’re reading this, it’s likely that you’re tired of letting disconnection, autopilot, and that general blah feeling run the show.
When you downloaded TAB, you said yes to something different… even if you can’t quite put words to what “different” is yet.
This means you’re ready for your next evolution.
You’re ready to take responsibility for the energy you bring to your life.
And most importantly…
You’re ready to become the MF cycle breaker, baby. Yee-haw 🤠
So… what even is a cycle breaker, Tor?
A cycle breaker is a (very, hehehe) courageous human who says:
“That ends with me.”
They’re the ones who look at generational patterns, inherited ways of parenting, partnering, and existing in the world and think…
“Nahhhhhh. I’m not gonna do it like that just because that’s how it’s always been done.”
Cycle breakers:
Stop passing down inherited pain and patterns
Heal themselves (even when it’s messy)
Do life their way, not the “family” way
Step into their fullest self so the next generation can finally be free
It’s big work. And spoiler alert: you were made for it.
The Truth They Won’t Tell You
Here’s the part no one broadcasts on their Instagram:
Cycle breaking is not for the faint of heart. It’s f*cking hard sometimes.
It’s not just “being a better parent” or “setting boundaries” or “reading a self-help book.”
It’s waking up to the ways you were shaped. The good, the bad, and the “oh fuhhhh THAT’S what’s stuck in my nervous system???? BIG YIKES.”
It’s knowing that most of our society chooses to be “normal” and run on autopilot, and choosing personal responsibility and self-awareness instead.
It’s deciding to grow… even when it’s uncomfortable. (And even when it makes others uncomfortable!!)
The Questions Cycle Breakers Dare to Ask
Cycle breakers look at their lives and get curious:
What would it look like to do things differently?
What would it feel like to meet myself, my partner, and my kids with more compassion and respect?
What would it look like to work with my triggers instead of blaming or avoiding them?
How would my life change if I chose to connect with what’s real instead of pretending it isn’t there?
This Work Is For YOU, Too
Ohhhhhh, but here’s my favorite part:
Most people assume “cycle breaker” only means parenting differently.
Not up in here! (Name that movie. Anyone?)
Cycle breaking isn’t just for the kids.
It’s for you, too.
It’s about meeting your most fulfilled self. Designing a life that actually feels like yours. Not one created by your conditioning, survival patterns, wounds, or family expectations.
Because when you feel free, confident, and grounded in your own skin, you raise kids who feel safe enough to be fully themselves, too.
And THOSE kids are the ones confident enough, strong enough, and resilient enough to change the whole MF world.
If This Is You… You’re IT
If you feel the weight of the generations before you…
How they parented
How they treated their partner
How they interacted with their own passions, dreams, and emotions
How they responded to life
…and you want to live with more alignment, confidence, self-respect, and love instead?
You’re a cycle breaker. Yep.
Not “becoming.” Not “maybe one day.”
You already are, babyyyyy.
I’m just here to show you how.
Cycle Breakers Change the World (Starting with Themselves)
Cycle breakers do more than just raise kids differently.
They create a whole new emotional landscape for society. One where self-awareness, empathy, and authentic connection become the norm.
Because when you change yourself, you change your home.
When you change your home, you change the generations to come.
And when the next generation is raised feeling safe enough to be free, self-expressed, and honest about what they feel, want, and need… a more beautiful world is born.
“If you want to change the world, start at home.”
So if you’ve been reading this with that “omggg, this is me” feeling…
You’re not here by accident.
You were born to be a cycle breaker.
You’ve finally found your people. Hiiiiii 👋
And TAB is your first step.
Welcome home, babe. :)
PS: If you’re ready to move beyond alignment and into cycle breaking, Beyond the Blueprint is your next step.