Well, hello!
You found me!
If you're here, something in your relationship (or in yourself, I see you, I got you babe) isn't sitting right.
You've probably been trying to figure this out on your own for a while now. Thinking about it, second-guessing yourself, googling shit, not sure if you're the problem or if he is (lol).
You're not crazy. You're just too close to it to see it clearly.
That's where I come in.
I'm Tori. I'm a relationship coach, a cycle breaker, and someone who has been exactly where you are.
In the muddy shit of a relationship that wasn't working, trying to figure out if it was me, him, or both of us, and confused as to why loving him sooooo much wasn't enough to fix it.
We built a passionate, healthy, full-body fuck yes relationship from the ground up. I found my way through by doing a very specific kind of growth work. Now I help others do the same.
You don't have to keep trying to figure this out alone.
How we work together:
Everything we do together happens entirely through written communication. No calls, no video.
I work this way for a very specific reason: communicating in writing gives both of us the breathing room required for real reflection, more honest processing, and responses that aren't filtered through the pressure of being put on the spot.
The act of putting your thoughts, feelings, and desires into words, in my experience, is much easier without a camera on your face or a stressful af time limit of a “session.” This coaching style creates a more open channel for me and more intuitive, efficient, and aligned breakthroughs for you.
Our work takes place through a private messaging thread or email. It's intimate, focused, and gives you more time to actually think before you respond.
If you're looking for Zoom-call style coaching, this isn't the right fit. :)
let’s talk options, yeah?
Strategy Session + Action Plan ✦ $97
You've been sitting with this situation for a while. Replaying conversations, questioning yourself, wondering if you're reading things right or making it worse. You know something is off but you can't quite figure out how to move through it. It's hard to see it clearly when you're IN it.
This is where a strategy session comes in. Here's how it works:
You receive a customized intake form that will help you unpack everything I need to see your situation clearly.
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I respond with a comprehensive breakdown: my full read on your situation, what I see happening, what I think the underlying issues are, and your three most important next moves to work through the issue.
If what you need most right now is clarity and a path forward, this is your jam.
BEST FOR: "I just need to know what I'm dealing with and how to fix it"
FEELS LIKE: fiiiiiinally a breath of fresh air, clarity
3-Day Sprint ✦ $197
Understanding the struggle is one thing, but the 3-day sprint is for when you need to actually work through it. To unpack the layers as they come up and explore your dynamic in a more effective, focused way. Here's how the 3-day sprint works:
You'll receive a customized intake form that guides you through unpacking everything we need to see the situation clearly.
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Over three days, we go back and forth in writing. You share everything that comes up for you throughout each day, whether that’s 1 novel or 75 short texts (lol, it’s all useful information to me!!), I respond each night with my read on what came up, what I'm seeing, what's hiding underneath, and what to do next.
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After our three days together, we close with a detailed, step-by-step action plan tailored to fit your specific situation.
The real gem of the 3-day sprint is what shifts inside you in the process. Something about externalizing this stuff, seeing it untangled and reflected back to you by someone who isn't inside of it, tends to move things that have felt stuck for a long time.
If you're ready to actually dig in, this is your move.
BEST FOR: "I need more than a quick fix. I need support working through this and guidance on what to do next."
FEELS LIKE: finally I’m not carrying the weight of this alone, support/companionship from someone who “gets it”
30-Day Intensive ✦ $597
You're not confused about what's happening, but you still haven't been able to change it. Because there’s a gap between knowing better and DOING better. That gap is exactly where this kind of work fits.
Here's how the 30-day intensive works:
Day 1: You'll receive a customized intake form that guides you through unpacking everything we need to see the situation clearly.
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Days 2-28: I build you 4 personalized Weekly Direction Kits based on what you share — each one includes reflection questions to sit with, action steps to move through, and content curated specifically for where you are and what you're working on.
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Between each Kit delivery, you have direct access to me three days a week. You share what's coming up as you move through the kit, I respond with my read on what I'm seeing, what's keeping you stuck, and what needs to happen next.
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At the end of each week you receive a check-in and a new Direction Kit — what moved, what stayed stuck, what needs more attention, and what to focus on to create the change you're after.
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Days 29-30 are dedicated to closing this container with intention. We solidify everything we worked through together and you leave with a clear path forward and the confidence to execute it.
This intensive is how we go after the thing hiding underneath and move forward instead of staying stuck.
If you're done living the same shit on repeat and ready to actually change things, this is your month :)
BEST FOR: "I'm ready to stop dealing with it and actually change it for good."
FEELS LIKE: the relief of realizing the version of you on the other side of this is closer than you thought. You can do anything for 30 days because you're a badass, ya’ know? ;)
cool…but is this for you?
Yes, if:
✦ you've been sitting with the same situation for longer than you'd like to admit
✦ you're self-aware enough to know something needs to change but can't quite see what or how
✦ you're done venting to friends and ready for someone to actually help you move
✦ you want honest support from someone who has been in the thick of it and come out the other side
✦ you're willing to look at your own patterns, not just your partners
This is NOT for you if:
✦ you want someone to just tell you you're right and he's wrong
✦ you're looking for live calls or video sessions
✦ you're not open to looking inward
