the presence blueprint:

DAY 5

YOUR BECOMING

(THE GRAND FINALE)

// day 5 theme: meeting your most fulfilled self, living as the version of you who’s no longer on autopilot

You’ve recalibrated. You’re beginning to remember which connection points and anchors bring you back to what makes you feel good. You’re not going back to sleep. I care about you too much to let you slip back into that old way!! :)

Today is about locking in the identity you’re in the process of stepping into. The real you, beneath the noise, the survival, and everything you inherited from someone else. You’ve gotten a glimpse of it this week. The one who leads with presence. Who responds instead of reacts. Who knows that cultivating their energy with love and intention is the way to the change they seek. At the end of this reset, I want to invite you to continue living this way…and to meet your most fulfilled self on purpose. The version of you who was drifting through, detached, out of alignment, or unfulfilled, is not in charge anymore. YOU are, babe. So, let’s finish out strong.

//day 5 love note from Tori

“When I trust myself to lead, I get to have what I want. Life says yes to me.”

Write this on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror, screenshot the cute lil wallpaper I made you below and set it as your lock screen, or write it down in your journal.

We looooove our visual reminders around here because they amplify the powerful energy behind your growth and increase the likelihood that you’ll actually finish what you start.

Take a quick picture of your visual reminder or screenshot the wallpaper and tag me in your IG story @toribishopx so I can repost it and be your cheerleader!! When you share your own work with the world, you plant a seed for someone else’s. That’s powerful ripple energy, my love. Let’s make stepping out of autopilot the MOVEMENT of our time :)

// “jump to” links

ANCHOR 1: MORNING COMPASS WORK (~5 min)

ANCHOR 2: THE GOLD 15 (~15 min)

ANCHOR 3: RELATIONSHIP RECALIBRATION (~15 min)

ANCHORS 4 & 5: GRATITUDE + CONTRIBUTIONS (~5 min each)

CLOSING OUT DAY 2

// day 5 anchor 1: morning compass work (~5 min)

Visualization: The Blueprint Is You

Take a moment to sit still. Close your eyes and put your hand on your heart.

Just breathe a few times here.

Let your shoulders drop. Let your mind settle. Let the tension melt. Let the noise soften. Let your mind open.

Let your heart feel who you are right now, not who you used to be.

This isn’t just the final day of your reset.
It’s the beginning of your journey to your most fulfilled self.

Let’s begin.

First, bring to mind the version of you who said yes to this reset five days ago.

Where were you emotionally?

lost · numb · anxious · frustrated · disconnected · heavy · invisible · irritable · restless · stuck

What were you craving more of?

peace · presence · patience · clarity · joy · connection · space to breathe · a sense of purpose · myself

What were you exhausted by?

constant reactivity · over-giving · surviving instead of living · disconnection · overstimulation · repeating old patterns · pretending I was okay · always doing and never being

Once you’ve got that version of yourself in your mind, hold it for a minute. Honor that person…that version of you. Because even though you were unsettled, you still found the energy to say YES to something new.

Find 1–2 words that describe how you were feeling before you started:
Before this reset, I felt __________ and __________.

overwhelmed · out of alignment · resentful · disconnected · anxious · reactive · numb · invisible · burnt out · uncentered

Now… shift your vision.

Bring to mind the version of you who has shown up for the past five days.
The one who slowed down.
Who checked in with their inner world.
Who chose presence instead of autopilot.
Who softened, noticed, remembered.

That’s you now.
Your children feel your safety.
Your partner feels your shift towards being more gentle and open.
You feel yourself anchored, clear, and connected, because you’ve stepped into taking energetic responsibility for it all.

What is different about how you can show up now?
Now, I feel __________, __________, and __________.

softer · strong · steadier · more grounded · calm · aware · open-hearted · spacious · centered · capable · rooted · powerful · present · alive · loving · clear

You see glimpses of a new rhythm. One where you are not reactive, but leading with love and clarity.

You are not just surviving the day, you are shaping the tone of both you and your family’s whole life. (Big work, babe. Look at you go.)

What qualities do you now see in yourself more clearly because of this work?
I am __________, __________, and __________.
intuitive · intentional · powerful · nurturing · open · honest · brave · emotionally present · wise · soft · strong · sovereign · capable · confident

I lead with __________.

presence · emotional clarity · self-trust · gentleness · grounded truth · love instead of fear

I bring __________ to my family.

safety · warmth · calm energy · emotional leadership · healing · connection · compassion

Now breathe again.
See this new version of you standing taller.
You met the next evolution of you.
And you’re just getting started.

Today, let the words you chose guide you.

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 1 off on your tracker!!

// day 5 anchor 2: the gold 15 (~15 min)Identity Reflection (before you complete today’s Gold 15)

Before you drop into today’s activity, take a moment to reflect on what these last five days of intentional, energetic connection have shown you…about yourself, your child, and your relationship.

Fill in the blanks to lock this shift into your nervous system:

Over the past five days, I’ve realized I feel most connected to my child when I __________.
play freely · let go of control · slow down · follow their lead · make eye contact · stay curious · soften my energy

The kind of parent I want to keep becoming is __________ and __________.
grounded · playful · responsive · emotionally present · attuned · patient · warm · safe · confident

What I’ve learned about my energetic presence is that it brings __________ into our relationship.
safety · joy · trust · laughter · healing · calm · closeness · magic · stability

Let these words guide how you show up today and beyond.

Quick reminders for day 5:

Use my suggestions or don’t, but make the 15 minutes count!!
No phones, tv, distractions of any kind
Get on their level, physically and energetically
Let go of how you want it to go or think it SHOULD go
Connect with your child AND your inner child

Day 4 Gold 15 Activity Suggestions by Age Group

For babies 0-12 months:

Mirror time: Sit with them in front of a mirror and explore their reflection together. Point to their features (“There’s your nose! There’s your beautiful smile!”), make funny faces, and let them watch both their own expressions and yours. Babies love watching faces—it helps build social and emotional development and makes them feel delightfully seen.

For toddlers 1-3 years:

Snack picnic: Lay out a small snack together on a blanket (inside or outside!) and have a tiny toddler picnic. Let them help “serve” the food and pretend it’s a fancy restaurant or an important tea party. Toddlers love to feel like they’re sharing an experience with you—not just eating while you do something else.

For school-aged children 4-10 years:

One-question conversation starter: Ask them one open-ended question and really listen to their answer. These little windows into their mind show them that their thoughts and ideas matter to you—and often spark the best conversations. Try:

“If you could invent anything in the world, what would it be?”
“If animals could talk, which one would be the funniest?”
“If you could switch lives with a character from a movie for a day, who would it be?”

For preteens 11-13 years:

Use conversation cards. Order talking points cards from Amazon. We have a few different sets. These help me ground into the moment when I feel frazzled, scatter-brained, overwhelmed, or “too brain tired” to connect. Don’t underestimate the power of sitting together under a tree and going through a few of these.

For teens 14+ years:

Use conversation cards. (See preteen section above)

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 2 off on your tracker!! Only a few more to go for today.

// day 5 anchor 3: relationship recalibration (~15 min)

One of the most powerful things about becoming your most fulfilled self is that it shifts the energy of your relationship without needing the other person to change first.

When you move differently by leading with your own energetic presence instead of pressure or expectations placed on them, the dynamic naturally starts to transform. My process includes learning to trust yourself to speak honestly, give generously, and receive openly (and still be held and okay within when there isn’t as much to receive as you want).

Today’s prompt is simple, but powerful:

How does the most fulfilled version of me want to show up in my relationship?

What would it look like to love from alignment instead of anxiety or detachment?

You can journal on this, just think about it, or use it as a conversation starter with your partner if the moment feels right.

Some reflection ideas:

When I’m present with my energy, I love more freely because I’m not waiting to be filled up first.
When I’m in alignment with my authentic values, I don’t take things so personally. I’m rooted in my own truth and enoughness.
When I feel safe and connected within myself, I’m less reactive, more receptive, and more capable of resolving conflict in a loving way.

Fill in the blanks:

When I am present with both my physical body and my aligned energy, I can bring __________ to our relationship dynamic.

clarity · trust · softness · healthy communication · emotional safety · lightness · consistency · desire · laughter · compassion · steadiness · truth · devotion · depth · curiosity · attunement

When I am present with both my physical body and my aligned energy, I can show love by __________.

slowing down · listening without fixing · expressing my needs clearly · softening my tone · initiating physical touch · offering presence instead of pressure · validating their perspective · making space for fun · honoring their individuality · saying thank you · showing affection without expectation · being emotionally available

When I am present with both my physical body and my aligned energy, my relationship makes me feel __________.

safe · alive · chosen · appreciated · held · grounded · respected · inspired · soft · excited · accepted · deeply seen · challenged in a good way · like I can exhale · like I matter

When I am present with both my physical body and my aligned energy, I can help my partner feel __________.

valued · supported · desired · emotionally safe · trusted · understood · less alone · appreciated for who they are · capable · calm in my presence · like we’re a team · free to be themselves · confident in our connection

I want to keep becoming the kind of partner who __________.

leads with love · doesn’t shrink to keep the peace · stays open during hard conversations · brings presence instead of pressure · repairs instead of runs · communicates clearly and kindly · lets love feel light again · receives as much as I give · creates safety without self-sacrifice · remembers the power of softness

If you’re doing this with your partner, try sharing your responses with curiosity and care.
Let this be a moment of celebration, avoiding judgment, blame, and criticism. You’re both allowed to grow and change. Let your relationship rise with you on your journey through The Presence Blueprint and beyond!! Remember, my Cycle Breaker Method™ takes a whole-life, whole-self approach to reaching your best and happiest you. Relationship is a big part of that destination.

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 3 off on your tracker!! Circle back at bed time for the last two anchors. Nice work!

// day 5 anchors 4 & 5: gratitude & contributions (~5 min)

At the end of the day, when you’re in bed and about to sleep, take a few minutes to reflect and write down either in a journal or in the tracker you copy/pasted into your notes on your phone:

GRATITUDE: What are 3–5 things you’re grateful you got to experience today?

Maybe you…

heard a song that made you smile
noticed the way your child reached for your hand
remembered to take an intentional deep breath that calmed you down juuuust a little
saw a sunset that stopped you in your tracks
enjoyed the smell of coffee brewing in the morning
had a breakthrough moment with your partner
experienced your child opening up to you about something important
felt present in a way you haven’t in a long time

CONTRIBUTIONS: What are 3 ways you showed up for someone or something outside of yourself?

Maybe you…

comforted your child (and stayed calm yourself) during a meltdown
offered your partner a moment of connection
sent a nice text to a friend
picked up trash because Mama Earth deserves BETTER
gave a compliment to a stranger
chose to be patient when you usually would have snapped or shut down

// closing out day 5 + full reset wrap up

You did it. You slowed down, tuned in, turned toward what matters.

And now you’ve met a version of yourself you’re not willing to abandon anymore.

In just five days, you’ve proven something life-changing to yourself:
When you lead with presence, when your energy, your heart, and your attention align, everything begins to change.

You’re no longer drifting, numbing, checking out, zoning out, waiting for someone else to change first, expecting someone else to fix it for you or make life feel good again.

You’re no longer allowing yourself to shut down, stay disconnected, or just survive the day.

You’re awake. You’re choosing. You’re creating a new rhythm for your life.

You’re returning to who you are beneath the noise and conditioning of others. Little by little, one daily anchor at a time, you’re finding the parent, partner, and person you actually want to be.

Now, LEAN IN. Here’s the big secret:

Your presence is the blueprint for the life you’re here to build.

You were the blueprint.
You are the blueprint.
The portal is you, babe!!

Traveling inward gives you access to a wisdom and confidence like no other.

And this is just the beginning.

You’ve laid the foundation.
You’ve felt the first ripple of this work with me.
But there’s a whoooole big beautiful ocean ahead, too.

And now you’ve reached the final line of the shore…
where you leave behind who you were and how you navigated life before…and start wading into who you’re becoming, with me by your side and a clear, organized map of how to get there.

The deeper healing…
The nervous system rewiring…
The emotional clarity, the magnetic connection, the unshakable self-trust…

The ability to access and follow your authentic inner voice…
That’s the path to becoming a cycle breaker.

That’s what we walk together inside Beyond the Blueprint.

This next step is where you learn to lock into a life that doesn’t just look connected or nice on the outside, but feels connected on the inside…and stays that way through stress, conflict, and life changes.

Where your energetic signature no longer pulls from the past, but radiates from who you are underneath the conditioning and expectations of others.

Where your most fulfilled self stops feeling far away because you’re living it.

I’m so f*cking proud of you. 5 powerful days. Seeing that real change is in the little anchors all added together. This is BIG WORK and you’re doing it. Whole-life, whole-self. You’re showing up where others won’t. This work gives you fulfillment beyond what you see modeled around you…and makes you unstoppable. Ask me how I know ;)

Thank you for showing up for yourself, your family, and your future. This is how we change the world. By doing our own work, letting go of the dark old ways, and cycle breaking our way into the light.

This reset was your first step.
Beyond the Blueprint is your next one.

Let’s keep it rollinnnnnnn’ baby. Me and you.

Take the next step with Beyond the Blueprint →

// bonus tips to keep your momentum going

Because accessing and reshaping your energetic signature isn’t a one-time thing, it’s a rhythm you return to all the time!! Particularly if you want to succeed at breaking cycles.

Here are 5 ways to stay connected to the path you’ve started with The Presence Blueprint:

1. Choose a daily anchor.

Pick one mini practice you loved from the reset (morning compass, gratitude + contribution lists, Gold 15, etc.) and keep doing it. Consistency beats intensity.

2. Set up a visual cue.

Put your favorite love note or phrase somewhere you’ll see it often. On your bathroom mirror, phone lock screen, dash of the car, fridge, etc. Some of my favorites:
“My presence is the blueprint.”
“When I trust myself to lead, life says yes to me.”

“The energy I bring to life is my responsibility and my power. I take care of me first.”

3. Check in weekly.

Set a calendar reminder for Sunday night (or whatever day works for you). Ask yourself:

What kind of energy have I been leading with?
What and who do I want to turn more toward this week?
Where am I expecting something/someone outside of myself to improve or manage the energy I bring to my day?
What can I do this week to feel more connected to myself, my children, and my partner?

4. Name the values you're living into together…and MAKE ART!

Choose 3–5 family values that feel aligned with the energy you’re cultivating through your inner work and energetic presence.

Examples to spark your heart:
screen-free presence · respect · joy · curiosity · emotional safety · honesty · softness · growth · wonder · flexibility · patience · responsibility · creativity · freedom · trust · laughter · kindness · emotional awareness · truth-telling · self-expression · repair · rest · teamwork · gentleness · fun · love · compassion · listening · self-trust · connection · regulation · gratitude · courage · belonging

Use them as the compass for how you show up for yourself and within your home, and let your children and partner see that values aren’t just words. They’re felt shared experiences, how we speak, listen, repair, grow, and love.

Once you find your 3-5 core values, make an art piece with those words proudly displayed on it. Hang this in your home. Somewhere everyone will see it often!

5. Keep becoming…on purpose.

If something stirred in you this week, trust it. That means you’re on the right path. Beyond the Blueprint is your next step. It’s:

a system to keep the work you started here anchored into your daily life
a map, structured, supported, and rooted in soul, for actually living as a cycle breaker
a clear path toward the version of you who isn’t just surviving, but deeply fulfilled by the magic of their own life

It’s all there waiting for you. You don’t have to figure it out alone. I got youuuuuu. You in?

I'm ready to go beyond the blueprint →