the presence blueprint:
DAY 4
YOUR TURNING
// day 4 theme: turning toward what matters, finding your orientation and alignment, reclaiming direction
The turning in this reset is about moving toward your values, your people, your inner truth. Instead of checking out, tuning out, or turning away, today you lean in. Turning towards what YOU value instead of what you’ve been trained to value by others/society is one the most powerful and impactful shifts you can make as a cycle breaker.
//day 4 love note from Tori
“When I turn toward what I value, I feel safe and my life feels like art.”
Write this on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror, screenshot the cute lil wallpaper I made you below and set it as your lock screen, or write it down in your journal.
We looooove our visual reminders around here because they amplify the powerful energy behind your growth and increase the likelihood that you’ll actually finish what you start.
Take a quick picture of your visual reminder or screenshot the wallpaper and tag me in your IG story @toribishopx so I can repost it and be your cheerleader!! When you share your own work with the world, you plant a seed for someone else’s. That’s powerful ripple energy, my love. Let’s make stepping out of autopilot the MOVEMENT of our time :)
// “jump to” links
ANCHOR 1: MORNING COMPASS WORK (~5 min)
ANCHOR 2: THE GOLD 15 (~15 min)
ANCHOR 3: RELATIONSHIP RECALIBRATION (~15 min)
ANCHORS 4 & 5: GRATITUDE + CONTRIBUTIONS (~5 min each)
CLOSING OUT DAY 2
// day 4 anchor 1: morning compass work (~5 min)
Sit in the quiet, allow yourself to be open to what’s true, and ask:
“Who have I been turning away from… that I actually want to turn toward today?”
Let love lead when you ask yourself this question. Let the truth that comes up be what it is without judging yourself…and particularly without your ego getting between you and the real answer.
Some possibilities:
Maybe you’ve been turning away from yourself. Ignoring your own needs, silencing your truth, or pushing through exhaustion instead of honoring your limits?
Maybe you’ve been turning away from your child. Physically present but emotionally distant, too depleted to fully tune in with their spirit.
Maybe you’ve been turning away from your partner. Resentment or distraction taking the front seat, forgetting the warmth that used to come so easily.
Maybe you’ve even been turning away from something spiritual. A deeper connection to life, to your intuition, the higher power that calls to you, or to the present moment?
There’s no shame in what comes up for you. This is your chance to gently name what’s true and choose to turn in that direction instead of continuing to turn away.
Remember: a rising tide lifts all boats. When you turn toward what matters, everything else begins to rise with it.
Think of one small, tangible way you can turn toward that person or power today…with your attention, your energy, and your heart. Visualize it clearly. See yourself doing it in your mind. Let that turning towards become your compass for the day ahead.
FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 1 off on your tracker!!
// day 4 anchor 2: the gold 15 (~15 min)
Quick reminders for day 4:
Use my suggestions or don’t, but make the 15 minutes count!!
No phones, tv, distractions of any kind
Get on their level, physically and energetically
Let go of how you want it to go or think it SHOULD go
Connect with your child AND your inner child
Day 4 Gold 15 Activity Suggestions by Age Group
For babies 0-12 months:
Dance & sway: Hold them close and slow dance together to calming music or a lullaby.
For toddlers 1-3 years:
Music & movement: Have a mini dance party—play their favorite songs and dance, baby, dance! Our personal favorite is “Run Baby Run” by Caspar Babypants.
For school-aged children 4-10 years:
Card or board games: A quick round of Uno, Go Fish, or a simple game like “Would You Rather?” Our favorite is the board game “Zingo.”
For preteens 11-13 years:
Tackle a small project together: a puzzle, organizing a drawer, or creating a playlist. The shared focus makes space for natural conversation.
For teens 14+ years:
Work on something side by side. Let them do their thing while you fold laundry, cook, or write. Take them with you to a coffee shop for computer work/homework. Simply being together without adding pressure builds connection really well at this age.
FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 2 off on your tracker!! Only a few more to go for today.
// day 4 anchor 3: relationship recalibration (~15 min)
Relationships drift into autopilot or “roommate” status when we stop turning toward each other. We get tired, distracted, busy. It’s normal. Take turns answering this question for each other today:
What’s one small way I can turn toward you this week to make you feel more seen, supported, or loved?
Examples might sound like:
“I feel seen when you put your phone down to look at me while I’m talking.”
“I feel supported when you ask how you can help instead of assuming I’ve got it handled.”
“I feel loved when you initiate a hug or affection without me asking.”
“I feel connected when we greet each other with longer hugs when one of us gets home.”
“I feel safe when you check in with how I’m feeling, not just what I did today.”
Let this be a vulnerable and gentle exchange where you can both be open…and most importantly: leave any defensiveness or resentment at the door. This is not a critique or a mention of where you’re “not good enough” or “not doing enough.” The capacity to receive feedback and use it for good instead of fighting against it will serve your relationship so very well.
FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 3 off on your tracker!! Circle back at bed time for the last two anchors. Nice work!
// day 4 anchors 4 & 5: gratitude & contributions (~5 min)
At the end of the day, when you’re in bed and about to sleep, take a few minutes to reflect and write down either in a journal or in the tracker you copy/pasted into your notes on your phone:
GRATITUDE: What are 3–5 things you’re grateful you got to experience today?
Maybe you…
heard a song that made you smile
noticed the way your child reached for your hand
remembered to take an intentional deep breath that calmed you down juuuust a little
saw a sunset that stopped you in your tracks
enjoyed the smell of coffee brewing in the morning
had a breakthrough moment with your partner
experienced your child opening up to you about something important
felt present in a way you haven’t in a long time
CONTRIBUTIONS: What are 3 ways you showed up for someone or something outside of yourself?
Maybe you…
comforted your child (and stayed calm yourself) during a meltdown
offered your partner a moment of connection
sent a nice text to a friend
picked up trash because Mama Earth deserves BETTER
gave a compliment to a stranger
chose to be patient when you usually would have snapped or shut down
// closing out day 4
Today was about turning towards what you value, turning towards your people, turning towards the life you actually want to live instead of just managing the life that’s been handed to you. So many people stay stuck in the cycles they’ve been given because they never pause to ask themselves, “What do I turn to to feel full? What do I turn away from to feel safe?” You leaned in instead of numbing out, and this is where things can begin to shift for the big picture of what it feels like to be you. Every time you choose to turn towards what matters to you, even in these small daily anchor type ways, it adds up and helps you become someone who SHOWS UP. Someone who feels aligned and capable of leading themselves towards fulfillment. Tomorrow, we build on that momentum. You’ve come home to your values, now it’s time to meet the version of you who lives them. Keep going. You’re growing. Almost there :)
PS: If you’re ready to move beyond presence and into cycle breaking through energetic sovereignty, Beyond the Blueprint is your next step.
// all presence blueprint quick links
TPB home page
day 1: your return
day 2: your energy
day 3: your choice
day 4: your turning
day 5: your becoming
full reset wrap up
bonus tips to keep your momentum
next steps → explore Beyond the Blueprint
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