the presence blueprint:

DAY 3

YOUR CHOICE

// day 3 theme: reclaiming the power of choice by finding the gap, learning to respond instead of react

Today is about stepping out of unconscious patterns, habits, and reactions and choosing something new. Even the smallest shift in how you respond/react can snap you out of autopilot and help you feel closer to your most powerfully lived life.

//day 3 love note from Tori

“I am not at the mercy of life. I am not a victim. I find my power in the space between what happens and how I choose to respond to it.”

Write this on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror, screenshot the cute lil wallpaper I made you below and set it as your lock screen, or write it down in your journal.

We looooove our visual reminders around here because they amplify the powerful energy behind your growth and increase the likelihood that you’ll actually finish what you start.

    • Take a quick picture of your visual reminder or screenshot the wallpaper and tag me in your IG story @toribishopx so I can repost it and be your cheerleader!!  When you share your own work with the world, you plant a seed for someone else’s. That’s powerful ripple energy, my love. Let’s make stepping out of autopilot the MOVEMENT of our time :)

// day 3 “jump to” links

ANCHOR 1: MORNING COMPASS WORK (~5 min)

ANCHOR 2: THE GOLD 15 (~15 min)

ANCHOR 3: RELATIONSHIP RECALIBRATION (~15 min)

ANCHORS 4 & 5: GRATITUDE + CONTRIBUTIONS (~5 min each)

CLOSING OUT DAY 2

// day 3 anchor 1: morning compass work (~5 min)

Sit in the quiet, allow yourself to be open to what’s true, and ask:

Where do I tend to react on autopilot? And, if I find/create space between what triggers me and how I respond, what can I choose instead?

  • Maybe you snap at your kids if they push back and today, you want to choose curiosity instead. Why are they pushing back? Could I deliver things in a different way?

  • Maybe you get aggressive or shut down in conflict with your partner and today you want to choose openness or a loving repair.

  • Maybe you’ve been numbing, scrolling, or checking out every time you feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed and today you want to choose a healthier coping mechanism.

  • Maybe your reactions are coming from a place of feeling like you need to prove you’re “good enough” and today you’ll choose to believe you already are.

Write it down or let yourself think it through for a few minutes. Be honest and real, even if it feels hard to face.

“This is what I’ve been defaulting to out of habit. And here’s what I’d like to choose instead.”

Find what you CHOOSE intentionally and let that be your compass today. Curiosity, softness, conflict resolution, gentleness, healthier coping mechanisms, playfulness…what do you want to choose?

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 1 off on your tracker!!

// day 3 anchor 2: the gold 15 (~15 min)

Quick reminders for day 3:

  • Use my suggestions or don’t, but make the 15 minutes count!!

  • No phones, tv, distractions of any kind

  • Get on their level, physically and energetically

  • Let go of how you want it to go or think it SHOULD go

  • Connect with your child AND your inner child

Day 3 Gold 15 Activity Suggestions by Age Group

For babies 0-12 months:

  • Sensory play: Let them explore different textures. Water in a bowl, a soft brush on their hands, feeling different fabrics together. Don’t overthink it!

For toddlers 1-3 years:

  • Chase & giggle: Playfully run after them, scoop them up, and spin. Let laughter be the goal. Become the cheetah. BECOME the jungle animals lol :)

For school-aged children 4-10 years:

  • Back-and-forth storytelling: Start a silly story and take turns adding the next sentences.

For preteens 11-13 years:

  • Watch a few short funny videos together. Laughing creates connection. Let the conversation go wherever it goes from here!

For teens 14+ years:

  • Listen to music together. Ask them to show you a song they love and actually engage with it. Lay on their bedroom floor with them and just listen.

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 2 off on your tracker!! Only a few more to go for today.

// day 3 anchor 3: relationship recalibration (~15 min)

Find a quiet moment for you two to chat and work through today’s prompt.

When tension rises or we enter conflict, what reaction do I tend to fall into?

Do you…

  • get snappy?

  • shut down?

  • criticize or blame them?

  • withdraw or pull away completely?

  • get defensive?

  • over-explain, over-apologize, or try to “fix” it?

  • panic and start telling yourself it’s all over? (This one is me lol)

And once you find it, what would you like to CHOOSE instead?

“When we fight or disagree, I ___. I want to choose ___ instead.”

  • When I feel criticized, I get defensive. But I want to choose openness or at least take a breath before responding.

  • When I feel invisible, I get cold or distant. I want to choose vulnerability and say what I need.

  • When I feel disconnected, I frantically try to fix it. I want to choose calm communication instead of panicking.

This is just a gentle check point for you. We aren’t going through a relationship overhaul with this reset, just bringing awareness to where we CAN choose how we respond.

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 3 off on your tracker!! Circle back at bed time for the last two anchors. Nice work!

// day 3 anchors 4 & 5: gratitude & contributions (~5 min)

At the end of the day, when you’re in bed and about to sleep, take a few minutes to reflect and write down either in a journal or in the tracker you copy/pasted into your notes on your phone:

GRATITUDE: What are 3–5 things you’re grateful you got to experience today?

Maybe you…

  • heard a song that made you smile

  • noticed the way your child reached for your hand

  • remembered to take an intentional deep breath that calmed you down juuuust a little

  • saw a sunset that stopped you in your tracks

  • enjoyed the smell of coffee brewing in the morning

  • had a breakthrough moment with your partner

  • experienced your child opening up to you about something important

  • felt present in a way you haven’t in a long time

CONTRIBUTIONS: What are 3 ways you showed up for someone or something outside of yourself?

Maybe you…

  • comforted your child (and stayed calm yourself) during a meltdown

  • offered your partner a moment of connection

  • sent a nice text to a friend

  • picked up trash because Mama Earth deserves BETTER

  • gave a compliment to a stranger

  • chose to be patient when you usually would have snapped or shut down

// closing out day 3

Today, we focused on finding the power of choice. Why is this happening to me vs finding power and sovereignty in the space between what happens and how you respond to it. You are not a victim, you are not powerless in the face of your patterns, habits, or reactions. You are a powerful being who can CHOOSE instead of just “getting by” or “surviving.” Tomorrow, we will build on this power. Keep going. You’re growing!! :)

PS: If you’re ready to move beyond presence and into cycle breaking through energetic sovereignty, Beyond the Blueprint is your next step.

// all presence blueprint quick links

  • TPB home page

  • day 1: your return

  • day 2: your energy

  • day 3: your choice

  • day 4: your turning

  • day 5: your becoming

  • full reset wrap up

  • bonus tips to keep your momentum

  • next steps → explore Beyond the Blueprint

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