the presence blueprint:

DAY 1

YOUR RETURN

// day 1 theme: reconnecting with what’s real and important, returning to love

There’s nothing wrong with you, dude. For real.. You’ve just been disconnected from what makes you feel safe, alive, and in touch with the good. And, I can’t blame you. Our society encourages this disconnection. Today, we’ll return to what’s real and important to us, both external and internal.

//day 1 love note from Tori

“Avoiding the feeling won’t protect me. Avoidance keeps me stuck. It’s safe to acknowledge what’s real. It’s safe to feel it.”

Write this on a sticky note and put it on your bathroom mirror, screenshot the cute lil wallpaper I made you below and set it as your lock screen, or write it down in your journal.

We looooove our visual reminders around here because they amplify the powerful energy behind your growth and increase the likelihood that you’ll actually finish what you start.

Take a quick picture of your visual reminder or screenshot the wallpaper and tag me in your IG story @toribishopx so I can repost it and be your cheerleader!! When you share your own work with the world, you plant a seed for someone else’s. That’s powerful ripple energy, my love. Let’s make stepping out of autopilot the MOVEMENT of our time :)

// day 1 “jump to” links

ANCHOR 1: MORNING COMPASS WORK (~5 min)

ANCHOR 2: THE GOLD 15 (~15 min)

ANCHOR 3: RELATIONSHIP RECALIBRATION (~15 min)

ANCHORS 4 & 5: GRATITUDE + CONTRIBUTIONS (~5 min each)

CLOSING OUT DAY 1

// day 1 anchor 1: morning compass work (~5 min)

Sit in the quiet, allow yourself to be open to what’s true, and ask:

What have I been too overwhelmed or distracted to let myself feel lately?

Write about it or just spend a few minutes thinking through it. Let it come out messy. There’s no wrong way to work with this question.

Maybe it’s a grief you haven’t had time to be with. Grieving the loss of a friendship, grieving for the way you thought things would go. Grief has many forms and carries more weight than we realize.
Maybe it’s joy or pride that you brushed past too quickly, or happiness you haven’t let yourself feel all the way into for fear of losing it.
Maybe it’s rage that feels too big, so you’ve been turning away from it or avoiding it…
Betrayal? Insecurity? Frustration? Feeling “not good enough?”
Maybe it’s numbness or dissociation, and even that deserves acknowledgment.

Whatever is there, just let it be there. We aren’t fixing it, forcing it, or doing “the work” around it. We’re just letting it have space to exist; showing ourselves we ARE strong enough to carry on while simultaneously acknowledging and holding this feeling.

Once you find the feeling you’ve been hiding from or avoiding, just stay close to it for a few minutes. Put your hand on your heart and breathe with it, and whisper out loud or say in your head, “I see you.” That’s all this moment is asking you for. To be HERE with what’s real for you, not to provide solutions. There’s magic in choosing to be with your internal experiences instead of denying them.

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 1 off on your tracker!!

// day 1 anchor 2: the gold 15 (~15 min)

If the provided Gold 15 suggestions don’t feel right for you, listen to that! The goal isn’t to do exactly what I suggest. It’s to just spend 15 minutes REALLY there with your little ones. Make it your own and do it your own way if that feels better. The options I offer are for if you’re stumped or too tired/overwhelmed/on autopilot to think of something.

BUT!!! Remember the rules, my dear!!! No phones, tv, etc., get on their level, let go of how you “think” it should go. Just show up and let it be what it is. Enjoy this time and return to your childlike ability to access play and wonder. :)

Day 1 Gold 15 Activity Suggestions by Age Group

For babies 0-12 months:

Face-to-face time: Lay beside them, make eye contact, and mimic their sounds and facial expressions. Let them “talk,” and respond back like you’re having a conversation. Connect with your energy, not just your actions.

For toddlers 1-3 years:

Floor play: Get on the ground, join them in block building, car racing, or pretend play, and let them lead the show. Follow what they light up or get excited about.

For school-aged children 4-10 years:

Creative connection: Draw or color together side by side, letting conversation flow naturally and being all the way in with your energy.

For preteens 11-13 years:

Cook or bake something simple together. Let them be in charge of multiple steps so they feel ownership. LET THEM MAKE A MESS (I know it’s tough but chill!!!) This is about fun, not productivity.

For teens 14+ years:

Make a coffee, tea, or smoothie run together. Easy, no-pressure conversation time.

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 2 off on your tracker!! Only a few more to go for today.

// day 1 anchor 3: relationship recalibration (~15 min)

With the passing of time, we slip into habitual negativity or apathy in relationships. Particularly when we are busy, on autopilot, or focused on raising littles. Today, we choose to return to a positive perspective similar to what we had at the beginning.

Each of you answer this: One thing I saw you do recently that made me feel proud or grateful was…

And when you’re taking turns answering, don’t just listen, say, “Cool.” and rush to the next thing. Sit in that moment for a minute. Really BE there.

These types of interactions recalibrate your connection because you’re retraining your brain to notice, return to, and name the good out loud…instead of only paying attention to/speaking up about the bad. This builds warmth, emotional safety, and trust. It softens your nervous system toward one another…and THAT is where a more fulfilling connection can start to grow (or come back online).

FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don’t forget to check anchor 3 off on your tracker!! Circle back at bed time for the last two anchors. Nice work!

// day 1 anchors 4 & 5: gratitude & contributions (~5 min)

At the end of the day, when you’re in bed and about to sleep, take a few minutes to reflect and write down either in a journal or in the tracker you copy/pasted into your notes on your phone:

GRATITUDE: What are 3–5 things you’re grateful you got to experience today?

Maybe you…

heard a song that made you smile
noticed the way your child reached for your hand
remembered to take an intentional deep breath that calmed you down juuuust a little
saw a sunset that stopped you in your tracks
enjoyed the smell of coffee brewing in the morning
had a breakthrough moment with your partner
experienced your child opening up to you about something important
felt present in a way you haven’t in a long time

CONTRIBUTIONS: What are 3 ways you showed up for someone or something outside of yourself?

Maybe you…

comforted your child (and stayed calm yourself) during a meltdown
offered your partner a moment of connection
sent a nice text to a friend
picked up trash because Mama Earth deserves BETTER
gave a compliment to a stranger
chose to be patient when you usually would have snapped or shut down

// closing out day 1

You did it, buddyyyy!!! You showed up for yourself today. You held the quiet courage required to walk through your day in a whole new way and with new things at the top of your priority list. At the end of day 1 of your reset, I want you to remember that this isn’t about just checking the boxes. These 5 anchors are literally helping you build a new relationship with the energetic signature you carry through your one beautiful life.

Today, you settled back into the now. You returned to what matters. Rest in the knowing that you came back to the you that needs you. And, even if you didn’t get to all 5 anchors today, you still moved towards fulfilling, meaningful change.

Tomorrow, we go deeper!! Keep going. You’re growing. Love ya lotsss and I’m proud of you, ya’ little bad ass!!! :)

PS: If you’re ready to move beyond presence and into cycle breaking through energetic sovereignty, Beyond the Blueprint is your next step.