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section 01

how your relationship actually feels right now

my relationship feels more like a roommate situation than a real partnership

I love my partner but I'm not sure I'm in love with them anymore

we keep having the same argument on repeat and nothing ever actually changes

I feel more alone inside my relationship than I'd feel if I were actually alone

I've started to wonder if this is just… as good as it gets

things look fine from the outside but something feels off on the inside

I miss who we used to be, or I'm grieving a version of this relationship I thought we'd have

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section 02

how you show up (or don't)

I avoid hard conversations because I already know how they'll go

I don't feel truly seen or understood by my partner

I give more than I receive and I'm starting to resent it

I struggle to ask for what I need, it feels easier to just not need things

I lose myself in relationships, my opinions, my needs, my identity just disappear

I stay in situations way longer than I should because I'm scared of what leaving means

I say yes when I mean no and end up resenting it later

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section 03

when things get hard

conflict makes me either spiral into anxiety or completely shut down, there's no in between

I say things I don't mean when I get upset

after a fight I have no idea how to repair, we either pretend it didn't happen or it lingers for days

I just keep the peace instead of saying what I actually feel, and then feel weird about it

I over-explain, apologize for things that aren't my fault, or shrink myself to avoid conflict

I'm terrified of abandonment, it makes me do things I'm not proud of

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section 04

the deeper stuff

I keep attracting or recreating the same relationship dynamics no matter how hard I try not to

I didn't grow up seeing a healthy relationship modeled, and I feel that gap every day

I want to show my kids something different but I'm not sure I know what different looks like

I've done some personal growth work but it hasn't fully translated into my relationship

part of me wonders if I'm the problem, and that makes me really uncomfortable

I know things need to change but I don't know where to actually start

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