the cycle breaker quiz
✦ relationship edition ✦
find out exactly where you are in your relationship growth journey + what’s actually holding you back from the love you want
passionate relationships
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healthier love
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self-trust + confidence
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for a more beautiful future
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for a more beautiful life
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for a more beautiful world
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passionate relationships ✦ healthier love ✦ self-trust + confidence ✦ for a more beautiful future ✦ for a more beautiful life ✦ for a more beautiful world ✦
what's uppppp big dog?
There’s something in you that knows there’s supposed to be more, yeah? More connection, more passion, more to this “love” thing.
-Maybe your relationship feels more like a roommate situation than a real partnership.
Maybe you keep having the saaaame fight on repeat and you’re exhausted.
Maybe things look fine from the outside but inside you feel disconnected, unseen, or just… kind of empty. Weird. Blah. Disconnected from yourself and the person you get in bed with at the end of the day.
I’ve been there, dude. For reallll. I see you and I know how just…NOT RIIIIGHT that feels.
BUT LISTEN PLEEEASE: You deserve a f*ck yes kind of love. A relationship that lights you up. To feel proud of how you love and are loved in return. To know that you’re important af and to feel connected in an undeniable way. (You deserve fiery passion, too. Can’t leave that out!!)
And my goal is to help you get there. But first, we gotta figure out 2 things.
Which phase of the cycle breaker journey you’re in right now
What’s actually keeping you stuck there
SO, HERE'S THE PLAN, STAN:
This quiz will show you which patterns are subconsciously controlling your relationship dynamics. Check every box that feels true, even if it’s only a liiiiiiittle true…even if you’d rather throw up than admit it to be true ;)
Oh…and you gotta be honest af as you go through this. Integrity is king.
Let's grow, babyyyyy ↓
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check the boxes that apply to youthe quiz:
□ I feel more like roommates than partners (or have in past relationships)
□ I avoid hard conversations to keep the peace
□ I don't feel truly seen or understood by my current/past partner
□ I give more than I receive and quietly resent it
□ I struggle to ask for what I need without feeling like a burden
□ Conflict in my relationships tend to have me spiral or shut down completely
□ I feel disconnected from intimacy — emotionally or physically
□ I attract the same relationship dynamics over and over
□ I lose myself in relationships — my needs, my opinions, my identity
□ I stay in situations longer than I should because I'm scared of being alone
→ write down how many boxes you checked for “relationship patterns”
NOTE: below are 2 different versions of section 2: for parents and for those without children. Skip to the section that pertains to you.
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count how many apply to yousection 2 for parents — your parenting patterns:
□ I react to my kids in ways that remind me of how I was parented sometimes
□ I feel guilt or shame after losing my patience
□ I struggle to stay calm when my child is dysregulated/upset
□ I find it hard to set boundaries without feeling like a bad parent
□ I over-explain, over-apologize, or over-accommodate to avoid conflict or tension
□ I put my kids' emotional comfort above my own to the point of burnout
□ I feel like I'm parenting from fear more than intention
□ I don't know how to repair with my kids after a hard moment
□ I catch myself saying things my parents said or reacting in ways I know aren’t healthy
□ I want to raise emotionally healthy kids but don't fully know how
→ write down how many boxes you checked for “parenting patterns”
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count how many apply to yousection 2 if you don’t have children — your inner child patterns:
☐ I learned that love had to be earned — through behavior, performance, or keeping the peace
☐ Emotions weren't really talked about or welcomed in my home growing up
☐ I was parentified — I took care of others' feelings/needs as a kid
☐ I learned to make myself small to avoid conflict or punishment
☐ Anger, sadness, or "big" emotions were met with shame, silence, or punishment
☐ I didn't feel fully safe to be myself around one or both of my parents
☐ I learned that needs were an inconvenience — mine or others'
☐ I grew up feeling like I had to be "good" to be loved
☐ I witnessed relationship dynamics I swore I'd never repeat — and I can see them in myself now
☐ I didn't have someone consistently model what healthy emotional regulation looked like
→ write down how many boxes you checked for “inner child patterns”
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count how many apply to youyour personal patterns:
□ I don't fully trust myself or my instincts
□ I know what I should do but struggle to actually do it
□ I feel like I've lost my sense of identity — who I am outside of my roles
□ I compare myself to others and use it as proof I'm behind
□ I feel guilty resting, doing nothing, or prioritizing myself
□ I say yes when I mean no, then feel resentful
□ I feel empty even when things look "fine" on the outside
□ I overthink decisions and constantly second-guess myself
□ I know there's more for me but I can't seem to move toward it
□ I'm waiting to feel "ready" before I start living the life I actually want
→ write down how many boxes you checked for “personal patterns”
decoding your results
With your quiz results we can answer two important questions:
Which phase of the cycle breaking journey are you in currently?
Which specific area of growth work would it be most helpful to focus on next?
This type of assessment helps us not get lost in the abyss of “personal growth” and actually direct our energy towards what will move us closer to the life we want.
step 1 ↓
add up your total boxes checked across the entire quiz and click which phase you’re in
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The conditioning and patterns running the show in your relationships, your parenting, and your inner world are still mostly invisible to you, but you have the willingness and the drive to make change. (Hell yeah babyyyy!!!) Here's what I need you to hear: the fact that you took this quiz means something in you is waking up and buzzing, pushing you to find a different way. That fuzzy feeling is where every cycle breaker's story starts. You’re in the right place. Follow that feeling and trust that you’re being guided to growth by your higher self. I’m so glad you found me!!
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You're self aware, but still feel stuck sometimes. You can feel the heaviness of the way things are now…and you know something needs to change. You're asking the right questions. You're just not sure yet what to do with the answers. This gap between knowing and doing can feel frustrating af. Important to note: this friction means you're currently pressed riiiiight up against the edge of something bigger. This is one of the most powerful places to be. The level up is close. Keep pulling at this thread. You were born to be a cycle breaker and I’m here to do it with ya’. Growth besties!!
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You're in it. Actually in it. You've already started uninstalling the old ways that used to run your life and you can feel the difference, but it feels messy and confusing, too. Some things have gotten easier as a result of the work you’re putting in, but some things have gotten harder. That's exactly what real growth feels like. It stirs stuff up before you can find your grounded center. Breaking cycles creates tension. It disrupts the status quo and the majority of the world around you won’t like that. Please know that the pushback and the internal tension doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. It means you’re ACTUALLY doing the meaningful shit. Keep going. This is where your hard work will pay you back in multitudes if you stay the course. And I’m here to support you!!
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You're living the payoff of stepping outside of your conditioning and old ways. You understand that there’s more available to you. The inner work is real for you and you feel comfortable putting in the reps. You've sat with the uncomfortable stuff. You've chosen differently, even when the old path was right there, familiar and easier to take. You can feel it in your every day life, in how you show up in your relationships, in how you parent, in how much more you trust yourself. Cycle breaking has no finish line. It’s a a lifelong practice, not a destination. Keep building, pushing, growing. There's another level waiting for you and I’m grateful I get to walk with you.
step 2 ↓
which of the quiz sections did you check the most boxes?
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What you learned about love, closeness, and connection are showing up in your most important relationships right now. You might be giving everything and still feeling alone, or finding yourself in the same dynamics on repeat. This isn’t YOU. It’s programming from your past. It can be rewritten, uninstalled, or improved, with just one decision: to grow. Choosing to take this quiz leads me to believe you can already feel it (the push from your higher self that it’s time to grow), so, let’s doooo it!
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